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Kylie’s Top 11 LDR Songs

Looking for songs to entertain you while you wait, separated and apart from your long distance partner?  I’m sharing a few of my favourites below, or you can find them in our Spotify playlist.

11.  Right Here Waiting – Richard Marx

Wherever you go
Whatever you do
I will be right here waiting for you
Whatever it takes
Or how my heart breaks
I will be right here waiting for you

The song opens with this tell-tale line:  “Oceans apart, day after day…” and “If I see you next to never, how can we say forever?” And a lot of us have those uncertainties at the beginning.  You can never really be sure if a long distance relationship will work out, or for how long.  It depends on whether you met them before or after becoming long distance, how often you see each other and how well you click when you’re in person, along with a whole hoard of other factors that close distance relationships may resolve earlier on.  But song goes on to say it doesn’t matter, no matter what happens, no matter how long it takes, I won’t give up on us.  I won’t give up on you.  I  will always be here for you.  And it’s beautiful and sincere.

10.  Wintersong – Sarah McLachlan

It’s late and morning’s in no hurry
But sleep won’t set me free
I lie awake and try to recall
How your body felt beside me

If you’re not interested in sad songs, you can completely skip over this one.  But sometimes the distance gets you so down, that sad songs are all you feel like listening to.  This is also a Christmas song, so I would listen to it a lot when I was missing Johan around the holiday, to strangely make me feel a bit calmer and a bit better.  It has a very soothing sort of affect with the piano and it got me through a few hard nights.

9.  A Thousand Miles – Vanessa Carlton

And I need you
And I miss you
And now I wonder

How many times have we said to our partner, “I want to get on a plane already!!”?  For some of us, walking a thousand miles is literally impossible because we have oceans dividing our paths, but without being too literal, the desire is still there – no matter the distance, no matter how long it takes, you just want to do anything in order to see your loved one again.  It doesn’t matter how crazy it sounds, because the distance is driving you crazier and you miss them so much that a thousand miles won’t stand in your way.

 8.  Vanilla Twilight – Owl City

The silence isn’t so bad
‘Til I look at my hands and feel sad
‘Cause the spaces between my fingers
Are right where yours fit perfectly

Owl City’s electronica “Vanilla Twilight” has a very mystical daydream quality about it.  Once again, it focuses on the thoughts of missing someone, and those little things that aren’t the same without that person.  Thinking about that person helps the feeling of loneliness to subside, but it can never truly go away.  This is most evident in the silence of the evening, trying to sleep but the thoughts keep rushing through, and we’ve all been there at some point.

7.  Christmas With You – Jason Chen feat. Joseph Vincent

I don’t want to wait another day
You’re way to far away
I’m gonna pack my bags and fly to you
There’s no place too far to keep me from my boo
I’m on my way, see you in a few
All I want to do is spend my Christmas with you

This is another festive song, that starts off sort of slow and sad, but then gets motivating and happier.  Because they decide instead of sitting around they’re going to do something about it.  And we can’t all make that decision whenever we want, but the lingering thought is always there.  And who am I kidding myself?  I can’t wait to be able to sing “I’m gonna pack my bags and fly to you” and actually mean it!

6.  Jet Lag – Simple Plan feat. Natasha Bedingfield

You say good morning
When it’s midnight
Going out of my head
Alone in this bed
I wake up to your sunset
It’s drivin’ me mad
I miss you so bad

To break from those sadder, slower songs, we have a much more fast-paced, upbeat one.  This song talks mostly about the struggles of timezone differences and trying to coordinate calls and things when you are at opposite ends of the day and night, and it messes with your body clock and drives us all crazy at times!  It’s worth a listen to, though the song can get repetitive at times, sometimes our lives feel like that too – an endless cycle of “good mornings” and “goodnights” because with different timezones and work hours, sometimes that’s all there’s time for.

5.  Shanghai Breezes – John Denver

I can’t remember when I felt so close to you
It’s almost more than I can bear
And though I seem a half a million miles from you
You’re in my heart and living there

At risk to completely embarrassing myself here with my Mum’s music, comes this song from 1982.  But the imagery in this song makes it gold – “And the moon and the stars are the same ones you see”; “There are lovers who lie unafraid of the dark”; “And your face in my dreams is like heaven to me”; “Shanghai breezes soft and gentle remind me of your tenderness”.  It is so easy for me to imagine pictures that go with these lyrics and, naturally, to relate to the distance.  It’s a very heartfelt song that talks about the loneliness of a long distance relationship in a very positive and warming way.

4.  I Will Always Return – Spirit: Stallion Of The Cimarron OST – Bryan Adams

I can’t stand the distance
I can’t dream alone
I can’t wait to see you
Yes, I’m on my way home

This is more of a childhood favourite that I rediscovered when looking for songs about LDRs, and yes, the movie is depicting two horses but the song has no mention of horses whatsoever.  And at its core, it’s about having to be separated and that journey to get  back to the one you love because you’ll keep coming back to that love, to that person, because that’s where you belong.  For a song about being apart from one another, it’s very uplifting – it’s a song of determination and loyalty.

3.  The Dancing and the Dreaming – How To Train Your Dragon 2 OST – John Powell

I have no use for rings of gold
I care not for your poetry
I only want your hand to hold
I only want you near me

Okay, maybe a little cheesy, but I’m not sorry.  I absolutely fell in love with this song when I first heard it in the movie.  And there have been some amazing, delicate covers of it too – take a listen to Erutan Music and Peter Hollens.  However, personally, the original is still my favourite.  It starts off slow and sad and beautiful, but then it just becomes fun and funny and tremendously happy and joyful.  For those who haven’t seen the movie, viking chief Stoick is seeing his wife, Valka, for the first time in years and they are both very hesitant to interact with each other because it’s been so long and there’s mixed emotions going on, but Stoick begins singing her this obvious pasttime favourite song and dance, and through this they are able to rekindle their love as Valka joins in with the song and so it becomes this burst of laughter and joy as they as they become used to one another again.  Stoick sings of travelling the seas to be with her, he would do anything for her, but actually Valka doesn’t care for the additions he offers her, she just wants to be with him and be near him and hold him in her arms again and isn’t that what we’re all wishing for when we’re apart from our significant other?

2.  Bring Me The Night – Sam Tsui and Kina Grannis

But when I close my eyes
The miles melt away
Like your here in my arms
At the end of the day

This lovely song is all about that longing feeling we all have in LDRs.  The constant dreaming of being with one another which is sometimes the only thing keeping you sane, knowing that in time, that dream will come true.  But before that can happen you have to wait it out and for the time being, the dreams you have while you’re sleeping have to make-do, because that is sadly the closest you’ll get to feeling like you’re with them for some time.  And so we yearn for the day to end so we can sleep for a chance of getting that physical feeling that we long for again, and this song discusses that passionately.

1.  Even The Winter – Audrey Assad

What if we find ourselves beneath the snow?
Our warmest words are frozen in our throats
And all we feel is left out in the cold
You and I

My top pick may be a little biased on my part, what with my love of winter and snow and all.  And strictly speaking, this isn’t necessarily a song about LDRs at all, but when I first heard it after visiting Johan for the first time and after playing in all that snow I wasn’t used to, I came home and I was like omg this is our song, this is so us, and you’ll notice I used it in our first meeting video.  We had just said our goodbyes and it did feel cold and alone once more.  The song uses all of these beautiful metaphors about how tough situations can get and it’s full of all of this uncertainty and it constantly asks “what if…?” but in the chorus it says, well, even if this happens, nothing’s going to change our love for each other, it’s only going to grow and grow and that bond with strengthen and we will become stronger because of it.

Even the winter won’t last forever
We’ll see the morning, we’ll feel the sun
We’ll wake up in April, ready and able
Holding the seeds in the soil

Even the darkness cannot disarm us
We’ll see the morning, we’ll feel the sun
We’ll break up the earth because we know that it’s worth it
Sowing the seeds in the soil of our love


After more LDR songs?  Check out these others that didn’t make the list!  They’re not all 100% about LDRs, but hold many relevant themes.

Internet Age – Jason Munday and Alex Carpenter
Long Distance – Bruno Mars
I Will Wait For You – Mumford and Sons
Never Met You – Tom Law
Life After You – Chris Daughtry
On My Way – Phil Collins
Red Lights – Tiesto

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Happy All Hearts Day!

Happy Valentines Day!  Grattis på Alla Hjärtans Dag!  Wishing you all a warm and fuzzy day!  For all the long distance couples out there, we hope the timezone differences won’t stop you from enjoying some quality time together.  We celebrated by a movie date with the classic and ever-loved fairytale, Shrek, and Kylie enjoyed the tasty lollipop Johan bought for her on Christmas day. 🙂

Tech Time #1: Communication

Today, there are more long distance relationships than ever before in history, and I can say this without having made any research into the subject. How do I know this? Because we have the internet, and the internet changed everything. Never before have people all over the world been so connected to each other. Chat messaging, video calling and social networks allow us to communicate across the world in real time, and it’s no wonder that we become friends and form relationships with people everywhere. This means a lot of long distance relationships. But how can we use all this modern technology to improve those relationships? That’s what Tech Time is for.


I’m going to make a few assumptions about you:

  • You are a human being
  • There is another human being that you like a lot
  • This other human being does not live where you live, and it’s far enough away that you can’t simply drive there whenever you want

Congratulations! You are in a long distance relationship! Now, if you want to maintain this relationship, the best way to do that is to talk to each other. Everyone does it, but in a long distance relationship, it is especially important. You can’t express your feelings through physical interaction, like hugs and kisses, hair stroking, hand-on-thigh, sofa cuddles etc, so you’ll have to express it in words, and that can sometimes be difficult, but there are ways to at least get closer to the physical, and I’m going to go through some of them here.


1. An Actual Letter

Title Art 1 It’s not actually a tech item, but the most personal way would be to send an actual letter, written in your own hand, in your own blood… okay, scratch that last bit. My point is that it’s something that you have touched and actually physically made your makings on. It can be touched and smelled, and it’s a great thing to keep, and collect. Something you can pick up and read in times of loneliness.

Quick tip: Kiss the letter before you send it and then mark where you’ve done it.


2. Email

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The oldest way to communicate on the internet, and it’s not going to go away anytime soon! The good thing is that anyone who have spent more than a few days on the internet is likely to have an email address. There isn’t much you can do without one, unless you just spend your time looking at pictures or videos of cats. Email can be received on any kind of device, both computers and smartphones and anything inbetween. You don’t have to rely on the receiver having the right app, or if they’re at the computer or whatever else limitations some other services have. It’s the most versatile messaging platform. On the other hand, many people’s emails get so many messages, spam and newsletters and other junk, that they get clogged up, and it’s easy to miss single, more important message, and some people don’t even check their inbox at all. It can take some time to get a reply to an email.

Quick tip: Being most suitable for long-form content, try and be creative! If you don’t get time to chat often, maybe it’d be fun to make a weekly newsletter?


3. Chat

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Oh the beloved chat clients. They are everywhere, and new ones keep popping up. I remember a time when everyone used just one chat platform. A time when you could just ask for someone’s “msn” because you could just assume that everyone had an account with MSN Messenger, later called Windows Live Messenger (I think I was the only one who actually made an effort to call it Live Messenger instead of just MSN). Nowadays, we have Snapchat, Kik, and a million other chat apps, each serving a different purpose. When it comes to what client to use, all platforms have their strengths and weaknesses. Kylie and I primarily use Skype coupled with a little Facebook Messenger. I can’t tell you what to use, because everyone has their preference, but I really recommend Skype. It’s a great allround platform. It’s got a good basic selection of emoticons, some fun hidden features like the possibility to apply basic text formatting and you can send files, photos and videos. Facebook Messenger is a bit more limited, but it’s more likely that any given person has it. Kylie and I mostly use it to privately share links from facebook or sending photos, since for some unknown reason, sent photos don’t show up on Skype on her computer. I guess I can touch a little on text messaging here. As Kylie and I live not only in different countries, but different continents, texting isn’t a viable option for us because of international texting fees. But it can be a good option if you mostly connect through your phones.

Quick tip: In Skype, you can make text italic by surrounding it with two underscores _like this_, bold using asterisks *like this* or stike through using tildes ~like this~. Also, put “!! ” is the begining of the message for monospace font or “/me ” for a little roleplay!


4. Video calling

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Video calling is the most real-time way to connect outside of actually meeting. It’s not as easy to misinterpret as written text can be as you can communicate with both speech and body language. There are several services that allow you to set up a video call, and Kylie and I have tried most of them. We seem to be always coming back to Skype though. But Skype isn’t perfect. One of the biggest downsides (even though this is probably applicable to every video calling service) is a tendency to lag and often drop calls when uploading or downloading from Dropbox or other cloud storage services and sometimes the calls just start lagging for no discernible reason. At these times, we will use Google Hangouts, or since I now use an iPhone, FaceTime, both of which work pretty well, but still don’t feel quite as stable as Skype does.

Quick tip: A video call is great for simulating all those intimate activities you can’t do in long distance like dates and if you have the call running on a mobile device, it’s a good way to have your significant other attend parties and birthdays with you. If you’re feeling adventurous, it’s also really nice to fall asleep with the call running on a device beside your bed.


Ultimately, you will probably use a combination of all these methods of communication, and so it’s a good thing that there are so many offers available.